Simon Sinek wrote a book called “Start with WHY”. While the book isn’t aimed at fitness specifically, it made me realise that my reason for training is even more important than how I’m training… It also allowed me to enjoy all the other benefits of training.
The book says that your WHY should be your starting point, and your should work your way out to your HOW and your WHAT. But we all seem to start with WHAT and HOW and negate our WHY…
1. I sign up for a gym membership (WHAT)
2. I lift weights 3 times a week (HOW)
3. But WHY am I doing this???
For years my WHY was that I wanted to look a certain way – I didn’t like how my body looked, so I exercised because I wanted to change it.
My WHY was destructive. And my training left me feeling dissatisfied with my results and unhappy in with my body.
While there is nothing wrong with wanting to lose weight or to look a certain way – this shouldn’t be the only reason that you train.
You need a deeper, more constructive reason to workout consistently, and to be able to enjoy the benefits of working out!
Wanna know a secret?
The success of your training journey isn’t about HOW you train or WHAT you train necessarily, it’s about the reason you’re training – and if that reason isn’t clear and constructive, your training journey is going to really tough…
Examples of constructive WHYs could be:
"I want to feel happier"
"I want to manage my stress"
"I want some me time"
"I want to get fitter"
"I want to get stronger"
"I want to be able to play with my kids and keep up"
"I want to sleep better"
These are examples of constructive reasons to exercise. These kinda WHYS fuel a deeper desire to continue showing up and digging deep, even when you maybe don’t feel like it.
A toxic why would be:
"I want to lose weight"
"I want to tone my flabby arms"
"I want a six pack"
This mindset is so destructive guys, please don’t take as log as I did to realise this!
I love chatting to prospective clients before they join FF to find out a bit about them and what their training goals are. I’d say half the time their answer is to “tone and lose weight” and the other half is saying that they want to feel fit and strong.
I can guarantee you that the guys who have identified their reason for training as wanting to achieve a feeling as opposed to achieving a certain “look”, WILL be more successful in their training journey.
I’ve seen it time and time again with clients, and even in my own personal journey – when my WHY is to feel better – I stick to my training, I push harder and my perception of my workout becomes more of an opportunity to invest in me, than a punishment because my body doesn’t look the way I want it to. And you know what the funny thing is, not only will you be more consistent in your training, but you’ll end up looking even better as a by-product!
Changing your why doesn’t change overnight -for years I trained because I wanted my body to look a certain way. I slowly started caring less about what my body looks like and more about what it can do, and how great I feel after working out.
If you’re feeling in a rut in your training, or you feel like you’re hating your body and you feel like you’re no where near looking the way that you want to – please listen to this advise! It’s the starting point in learning how to enjoy your training, to be able to train consistently and to be able to love your body even when it’s not perfect in your eyes.
Do you have a question? Or a suggestion to make?
I’d love to hear from you!